Social Media. I love it and I hate it at the same time. With everyone on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, email and the other handfuls of platforms, does Social Media make it more tempting to be unfaithful to your partner?
Once you have a breakup, do you unfriend your ex on Facebook, or do you keep that connection there, whether to keep tabs on that person, remain friends or torture yourself by always having a window into their life? I don’t think it’s a bad thing to remain friends with an ex, but what if you’re the one that was left scorned from a bad breakup? Do you continue to have an amicable relationship with that person, chit-chatting about life? If you’re in a new relationship, Social Media offers a look into your new partner’s old life. You can see old pictures of your new beau with his/her old flames, look at past relationships…and make yourself jealous and bitter.
What about the potential of your partner meeting someone new via Social Media. Maybe you get a friend request from a friend of a friend that you’ve met out a couple of times. You don’t know that person all that well but you start to look through their profile. Maybe you strike up a chat one day. You invite them out to events or start a friendship.
But where do you draw the line?
At what point does Social Media go too far? You’ve probably heard of the term “emotional cheating,” and that can be just as bad, if not worse, than physically cheating on someone. At what point do you draw the line and decide that what’s going on in Social Media is inappropriate? There’s so much temptation out in the world already, Social Media just makes it that much easier to stray from what is morally right. Sneaking around on Social Media is so easy to do, but would you do if you knew your partner could see? Would you say the things you say to people in private message or chats if your partner was reading them?
Everyone talks about how you should watch what you say on Facebook posts or tweets, but do you watch you’re saying in what you think is a “private” message? Probably not. But those things can come back to bite you in the ass. You hear stories about people leading double lives through the internet but you never think it will happen to you. People who meet others through Craigslist or have affairs online, or what about looking at porn or scandalous pictures of others. Where is the line drawn?
I struggle hearing about people in these situations because it makes me so sad. Why is it so hard for people to stay faithful? Flirting online often leads to an offline relationship, but do people only do it if they’re in an unhappy relationship, or is the temptation there no matter what your relationship status? Is the saying “ignorance is bliss” true, or do you want to know?
I love Social Media and all that it has to offer, anyone who knows me knows that. But there’s a dark side, and that dark side could potentially be the end to your relationship. So I ask again, where do we draw the line?