In one week, I’m hosting a holiday get-together for a bunch of girls. Around 25 girls to be exact. I feel like I should apologize in advance to our future server for 25 separate checks and a loud room of ladies.
While this seemed like a good idea when I was planning it, now that I really think about it, I see the potential for disaster.
It’s so hard to please girls (get your minds out of the gutter, I know what you’re thinking). I’m friends with a couple different groups of girlfriends that are all so different. There’s the girls that are always up for anything, will try new things and have open minds. There are the more high maintenance girls who take FOREVER to get ready and only go to certain places. There are girls who care about one thing only: boys. There are girls who don’t like other girls. There’s the girls who are so sweet and kind that you just want to slap them sometimes.
Any and every kind of girl there is, I feel like I’m friends with at least one of them. And it’s hard to mesh all of those personality types together into one peaceful dinner, which is what I’m attempting to do.
I’ve been wanting to do this for a couple years now; have a dinner around Christmas time so that we can all get together and celebrate. Everyone has such a hectic schedule in December, so I planned early this year. I love bringing people together, always with hopes that my different circles of friends can be friends. Sometimes it’s a success and I have a new group I can hang out with. Other times, the girls hate each other.
I feel like girls act like they like each other, but deep down inside are filled with jealousy and hate towards one another. Yes, we all have our best friends that we truly do care about, but then what about those acquaintance-type friends? You rarely see them, but then you run into each other and exchange pleasantries, always putting on a show that life is great and you’re so happy to see the other, while deep down you’re secretly judging her. Women view other women as competition, it’s as simple as that.
While I am guilty of doing this on occasion (and you are too, don’t act like you’re innocent), I wonder exactly why we do this. It’s exhausting trying to keep up with girl drama and gossip. Who is friends with whom, who isn’t getting along, which girl we shouldn’t be friends with this week, so and so slept with Sally’s boyfriend….the drama NEVER ENDS. It’s those few scandalous ladies that make all of us a bit wary of each other.
So here’s to hoping that this dinner goes smoothly. Hopefully we all drink enough Plum Blossoms that we love each other and leave with our periods cycling together as best friends. Hopefully this can be my new tradition, a girls’ dinner in which we all actually get along and respect each other.
Today’s Think Kit prompt: “What new traditions do you want to start this year?”